I used to have the same issues.
My friend recommended using ohnut , which is a rubber ring that is to be put on a penis.
With ohnut you can adjust how much penetration you want based on how comfortable you are, and as the ring touches your clitoris so that makes you feel good also.
It actually helped me to reduce the pain and I still use it once in a while.
However, I don't feel too much pain even without ohnut after for about few month of using ohnut.
